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Healing the Past, Connecting in the Present

Healing the Past, Connecting in the Present: Unraveling the Threads of Adverse Childhood Experiences and Maladaptive Behaviours

“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” – Maya Angelou

In our journey through life, the impact of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) often lingers beneath the surface, unknowingly shaping our maladaptive behaviours and hindering our ability to fully connect and trust others.

On a recent night out, I was very happy to notice how much more present I was throughout the night, no longer having to be so hyper-vigilant as I watched out for potential trouble or worried about getting home safely.

In fact, I hardly recognised myself as I stood alone hailing a taxi, feeling confident that I was going to be okay.

This experience made me reflect on the profound connection between ACEs and maladaptive behaviours, highlighting the importance of awareness, understanding the mind-body connection, unlearning hyper-vigilance, and embracing mindfulness to restore equilibrium in our lives.

In this blog, we will explore the path I took to overcome my learned coping skills of hyper-vigilance and rediscover trust in myself, while delving into the broader implications and techniques for others to do the same.

Unquestioningly Carrying Childhood Coping Mechanisms: The Invisible Backpack

The coping mechanisms we developed as children to navigate our traumatic environments often persist into adulthood, sometimes without our conscious awareness.

These behaviours, once crucial for survival, can now hinder our ability to trust and connect fully with others. Recognising and understanding these patterns is the first step towards releasing ourselves from the grip of past experiences.

The Mind-Body Connection: Feeling Our Thinking

Our bodies serve as a vessel that remembers our traumas, silently influencing our behaviour and perpetuating the reactions of our traumatised inner child.

Understanding the mind-body connection is paramount, as we come to realise that we are always feeling our thinking, whether consciously or subconsciously.

By becoming aware of this connection, we can begin to break free from the automatic responses that no longer serve us.

Unlearning Hyper-Vigilance, Embracing Ease: Retraining our Nervous System

Unlearning hyper-vigilance is a crucial step towards healing from ACEs. By recognising our triggers and differentiating between past traumas and present reality, we can recondition our nervous system.

This process involves consciously responding to situations rather than automatically reacting, enabling us to navigate life with more ease and emotional resilience.

The Power of the Pause: Path to Equilibrium

Amidst the chaos, the simple yet powerful practice of pausing restores equilibrium within us.

Slowing down and consciously taking a deep breath allows us to acknowledge our emotions, recognise tension or irritation as signs of stressful thinking, and soften our focus of attention.

This act of pausing helps settle the sensations in our bodies and brings us back to our most natural state of contentment.

Unraveling the Threads, Nurturing Inner Freedom

The path to healing from ACEs and maladaptive behaviours requires compassion, patience, and a commitment to self-awareness.

By unraveling the threads of our past, understanding the mind-body connection, unlearning hyper-vigilance, and embracing mindfulness in our lives, we can nurture healthier relationships with ourselves and others.

In doing so, we unlock the ability to trust, connect, and live a present rooted in contentment and understanding. It is in this journey that we find the path to inner freedom.

You can learn more about the art of pausing by clicking here.

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With love,


Namaste- I honour the place in you in which the entire universe resides. I honour the place in you, of love, of light, of truth, and peace. When you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.

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