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Overcome People-Pleasing and Reduce Anxiety

Breaking Free: How to Overcome People-Pleasing and Reduce Anxiety

“The most powerful weapon against anxiety is the ability to change your mind.” – Unknown

In a world where kindness and empathy are celebrated virtues, it’s not uncommon for some of us to take these qualities to an extreme.

People pleasers, with their hearts in the right place, often find themselves caught in a never-ending cycle of anxiety.

This anxiety stems from a deep-rooted belief that they must continuously monitor and tend to the emotional well-being of everyone around them.

In this blog, we’ll delve into the origins of people-pleasing behaviour, its consequences, and most importantly, how to break free from this cycle.

The Legacy of Childhood: Adverse Experiences and People-Pleasing

Adverse childhood experiences can significantly impact our behaviour patterns as adults. Parent pleasing behaviours in childhood can easily transform into people pleasing tendencies in our adult lives.

The need for external validation and the fear of rejection become deeply ingrained, driving anxiety and perpetuating the need to please others.

Breaking the Chains of People-Pleasing: Embracing Autonomy

It’s time to recognise that we are no longer helpless children seeking approval. As autonomous adults, we have the power to trust and rely on ourselves for safety and well-being.

By letting go of the belief that people-pleasing is our shield, we can reclaim our autonomy and break free from the anxiety-inducing cycle.

The Gift of Thought: Challenging Our Beliefs

Our thoughts shape our reality. People-pleasers often believe that their constant self-sacrifice is what keeps them safe from rejection or conflict.

However, by examining these beliefs and challenging them, we can uncover the truth that it is our inner strength and self-worth that truly protect us.

The Power of Pause: Slowing Down the Worried Mind

Anxiety thrives in the chaos of our racing thoughts. Learning to pause throughout the day helps us slow down our worried minds and regain control over our emotions.

Taking moments to breathe, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves helps in reducing anxious feelings and allows us to respond to situations with clarity and self-assurance.

Breaking free from the grip of people-pleasing and reducing anxiety is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

By acknowledging the origins of our people-pleasing behaviours, embracing our autonomy, challenging our beliefs, and practicing the power of pause, we can begin to break free from the cycle.

Unleash Your Inner Strength and Overcome People-Pleasing

Remember, you have the strength within you to step into a life where your own well-being and happiness matter just as much as others’.

Start your journey today and embrace a life of authenticity, self-care, and inner peace as you begin to overcome people-pleasing.

You can learn more about the art of pausing by clicking here.

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With love,


Namaste- I honour the place in you in which the entire universe resides. I honour the place in you, of love, of light, of truth, and peace. When you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.

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